A Three-Stranded Cord (God in Marriage – Part 2)

“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NIV)


Braiding was one of my favorite past times when I was young. It didn’t matter if I was braiding hair, twine, or plastic.  I didn’t know that God was into braiding too until I read this passage from Ecclesiastes. The Holy Spirit used it to teach me about the strength God infuses in marriages when both partners are walking together, headed in the same direction, being led by the Holy Spirit.

My husband and I didn’t know what we were getting ourselves into when we stood in front of the altar and pledged our love on that Saturday afternoon in 1978, but our Heavenly Father knew. More than that, He knew that because He would be the third person in our  intertwined spirits, we would be able to make it. His word says, “ Have you not heard? There is nothing too hard for God.” (See Jeremiah 32:17)

It’s true.

He has taken the moments of despair in my marriage and shown me how to trust Him and continue to hope. He has taken my sickness and taught me about His grace and determination. He has taken our poorest days and proven that He is the great Provider. He has used the darkest hours of our lives to teach us how to cling to each other and to Him. And through it all, we have arrived at this present place stronger than when we first began. We now have memories that make us bowl over with laughter, and yes, memories that can make our hearts ache with regret. God has filled our lives with richness beyond measure. More than that, He has taught us how fragile life can be and how very precious our marriage is.

Yes, in more than thirty years of marriage, my husband and I have been through a lot, but we are still here. He calls me ‘sweetie’, and I call him ‘my darling’.  We are not at the end of our journey yet. How do I know? We are still here. And though the economy, health issues, family concerns, and other pressing issues are a part of our lives, so is God. And if there is one thing that God has taught me, it’s that He is enough.

He’s the strongest part of our cord and He is more than enough to make up for anything we may have lost along the way. It is because of the love, hope, and power of God, that I look forward to hours, days, weeks, months, and years with my husband. More than that, I still wake each morning with visions of ‘better’ in my heart. I truly believe that our marriage is going to continue to get better and better as we grow closer to God and each other. We can relax a bit, knowing that as God transforms us individually, it’s going to have a positive impact on the quality of our marital relationship.

Yes, I am glad that God created marriage. He knew that it wasn’t good for me to be alone. He created marriage because He’s all about family. In fact, the Father wants us to be a part of His eternal family; the more, the merrier. Two people, loving each other, producing little ones who will grow to know and love God , then one day meet and marry someone who knows and loves God, well that’s what life’s all about. God is creating through humanity an eternal family with you and I as members.

Today, I pray that God will bless you to know Jesus Christ more and more, and that you will daily experience His great love for you. And I pray that if marriage is a part of your Heavenly Father’s wonderful, unique plan for your life, you may find someone who loves God with all of his or her heart. It is my prayer that God will send you someone who will respect, honor, and love you second only to God, Himself. Yes, may it be someone with whom you may stand before the altar and take your sacred vow to love and to cherish each other until death do you part. And let no man ever put it asunder.

Until next time… here’s to the journey!



Questions for today if you are considering marriage – If you could have your heart’s desire, what kind of mate would you want?  What kind of mate would you need in order to have someone who would walk with you on your journey with God? What kind of spouse do you believe God would want you to have?

Scriptures that may go along with this post:
Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

1 Corinthians 13:4-84 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  8 Love never fails.


© 2009 God’s Perspective Publishing


This post has been republished from the archives in case you missed it.

You don’t want to miss the next post on Enjoying the Journey3!


About Administrator

I'm more than half of a century old! That sounds 'cooler' than saying I'm in my fifties! LOL My husband and I have been married for thirty plus years and have a son, daughter, son-in-law, and grandson. I'm surrounded by a loving Christian family: mom, dad, sister, brother and their families. I love to garden, draw, paint, read, sing, compose, and work with young people. On the other hand, I also love to spend time around the 'young at heart.' I love to have fun and to laugh. I try to make the most of each day and enjoy it in God's presence. I love performing random acts of kindness to brighten someone's day! I'm learning how to be at peace with the unique person I am and to appreciate the way that God has made me. Hey! It's all a part of the journey!
This entry was posted in Family, Love, Marriage, Respect and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *