Am I unable to make a decision and stick with it? Should my nickname be Shaky ‘cause I’m flaky? Do I waver back and forth on what I should do like a pendulum on a clock? Do you? Do you give your word then take it back?
We sabotage our lives when we give our word and then take it back. It erodes our relationships to the point that those who know us can’t depend on us. They consider us to be flaky, untrustworthy liars, not capable of making a commitment. All we have is our word. When we go back on it by not following through with what we have promised, then our relationships with our families, friends, co-workers, and church family suffer. When you and I don’t keep our word, we are really disrespecting others and there is a boomerang effect. People stop respecting us. And in their hearts, they stop honoring us as people of integrity. You know, someone who is honest, trustworthy, and reliable.
I know that often we waver and sabotage our lives out of fear of making the wrong decision. We may think, “What would Jesus do?” “What will people think?” “What does the Word say?” “what if it doesn’t work out?” We go back and forth, confused, and filled with doubt. I’ve been there. Done that. That’s why I’m encouraging you. If God has given you a Word concerning your situation, trust Him. If you follow what you believe that God told you to do and you are in error, I believe that as you keep listening to Him and obeying, He will correct you and lead you back to where you should be. The good thing is that your trust and faithfulness will please Him.
If you waiver because you don’t know the Word of God or you don’t understand a scripture (and no one understands it all) then get an understanding. God says that His people perish, die, for the lack of knowledge. In Matthew 13th, Jesus talks about a farmer who went out to sow his seed. As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up. He goes on to explain what the parable means: When anyone hears the message about the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one comes and snatches away what was sown in his heart. This is the seed sown along the path. If you hear a sermon or teaching and don’t understand it, you can’t apply it to your life. The enemy makes you forget you even heard it. He steals it from you so you won’t have it to use as a weapon against him later. Nor will you have it to build your faith. If you don’t want to sabotage your life, ask God to give you a hunger to know God’s Word, to study, understand, and apply it. Then MAKE UP YOUR MIND TO BELIEVE IT! Our actions are based on what we believe.
I once went to my children’s high school to pick up scholarship information. Across the doorway of the counselor’s office was a large banner that said, ” You Can Tell What You Believe By What You Do.” It made a profound difference on me. I took a look at my life and my actions to see what I really believed about my relationships and choices.
Don’t be afraid to make decisions. God has not given you the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a SOUND mind. He has stored up wisdom for his children. He says that if you need wisdom, ask. He will give it to you. Please say along with me: “Help me to study your Word, Lord, so I can increase my faith. Then I won’t have a wavering mind and sabotage my life.”
The last part of this blog on Sabotage is coming up. I hope that you will return, so we can talk about it. Until then, I pray that God’s peace, which passes all understanding will guard your mind as you keep your mind on Christ. Enjoy the journey!
Scriptures to consider on your journey:
Proverbs 9:4-5 Whoever is simple (easily led astray and wavering), let him turn in here! As for him who lacks understanding, [God’s] Wisdom says to him,Come, eat of my bread and drink of the [spiritual] wine which I have mixed.
Ephesians 4:12-15 His intention was the perfecting and the full equipping of the saints (His consecrated people), [that they should do] the work of ministering toward building up Christ’s body (the church), [That it might develop] until we all attain oneness in the faith and in the comprehension of the [full and accurate] knowledge of the Son of God, that [we might arrive] at really mature manhood (the completeness of personality which is nothing less than the standard height of Christ’s own perfection), the measure of the stature of the fullness of the Christ and the completeness found in Him.So then, we may no longer be children, tossed [like ships] to and fro between chance gusts of teaching and wavering with every changing wind of doctrine, [the prey of] the cunning and cleverness of unscrupulous men, [gamblers engaged] in every shifting form of trickery in inventing errors to mislead.Rather, let our lives lovingly express truth [in all things, speaking truly, dealing truly, living truly]. Enfolded in love, let us grow up in every way and in all things into Him Who is the Head, [even] Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One). [AMP]
Questions to consider: What makes you indecisive? Are you led by your emotions or God’s Word and doing what is right to do?