What is your image saying to others? Ask yourself aloud, “What have I been saying by the way that I present myself to others?” We may do and say some foolish things, some harmful and often dangerous things, when we are communicating that we don’t feel loved; when we are craving to be loved and accepted. What are you trying hard to say, and what are you unconsciously saying, by associating with the people with whom you choose to associate?
What are you saying:
Prov. 14:13 says that “Even in laughter, the heart may ache, and joy may end in grief.”
In all the ways you communicate, are you saying what you really want to say? I believe that if I could sit down and tell someone what I really want out of a relationship, I would say that I want to be respected. What about you? When I am confused or moving slowly, I want to be treated with patience and kindness. Is that how you feel too?
Are you like me? I want to be accepted for the unique person that God created me to be. I want to be celebrated; treated with kindness and honor. I love it when someone sees me and they smile! I want my needs to be met. I want to be heard. I want to live without being afraid that, at any moment, anger is going to be directed at me. I want someone to cover my mistakes with love and my failings with their mercy, giving me another chance. I want others to not to keep a running record of my sins and condemn me for being less than perfect. Why? Because I want to be holy; live a pure, sin-free life, where I don’t keep missing the mark by leaning to my own understanding and not obeying God. When I fall short of God’s glory, His excellence, I want others to forgive me and choose not to recall my faults over and over again.
I’m blessed. I no longer have people in my life who throw my mistakes back in my face. God changed me and he changed them. I really needed them to forgive me, let it go, and move on. God worked it out. God can work it out for you too.
What do you really want?
If you are anything like me, I think that you want someone to say that they know you can do it. They know you are victorious. You are precious. You are likeable. You are loveable. I believe that you would say that you want someone in your life who will encourage you not to give up. You want someone to encourage you to be courageous; to stand. They are certain that if you don’t give up in due season, you will achieve your goals and have your dreams. You want someone who will stand by you and support you. You want someone who will not delight in sin, but will rejoice in the truth. You want someone who will always speak well about you to others. You want someone who will be willing to give you another chance and trust you again, after you have let them down. You want someone who will never give up on you, even when you feel like giving up. You want someone who will show you compassion, sympathy, concern, and kindness.
In other words, I believe that you are trying to say, in the best way you know how, that you want to be loved. And if you are a child of God, it is your greatest desire to love. After all, you and I were created to love. It’s just that often we can’t see how to love… how to love ourselves, how to love God, how to love others around us.
There is good news! God wants to teach you how to love! He is Love, you know. He wants to teach you how to enjoy the journey by hooking up with Him. Jesus said, “Take My yoke upon you and learn of Me, for I am gentle (meek) and humble (lowly) in heart, and you will find rest ( relief and ease and refreshment and recreation and blessed quiet) for your souls. For My yoke is wholesome (useful, good—not harsh, hard, sharp, or pressing, but comfortable, gracious, and pleasant), and My burden is light and easy to be borne.” Matthew 11:29, 30 [AMP]
I was reading one day about oxen and how farmers sometimes yoke together an experienced ox with a younger one. The older ox takes the lead and steers the team in the right direction. Together, they carry the load, making the work manageable. I decided to hook up with, connect myself to God through His Son. I want to let Jesus Christ take the lead. Let Him carry my load. His guidelines and commandments aren’t meant to be a burden around my neck, but to free me to be all that I was created to be. And all the while, I can bask in His love. I’m learning every day that His yoke is easy and His burdens are light. In other words, I’m learning what true love is really all about.
Until next time, know that God is aware of your heart’s desires. He cares lovingly about you. No matter what circumstances are going on in your life today, He is there with you. Call on Him. He has built into this day the grace you need to make it. Place your confidence in Him to enjoy today’s journey.