The ‘I’ in D. I. R. T. (Damaging Behavior and God’s Love – Part 2)

The ‘I’ in today’s post on D. I. R. T.  is about changing irresponsible behavior.

We know that when we behave irresponsibly, we prevent others from seeing the true image of God which resides in us. This type of negative behavior can draw an invisible line in the sand that others won’t cross in order to get to know us better, because they’ve decided that we can’t be trusted. Irresponsible behavior can lead others to believe that we are not people of honor and integrity. In order to remove d.i.r.t. from my life, God began to teach me how to accept responsibility for my choices.

I am responsible for my words. If only you’d do what you’re suppose to do,” I’d tell my kids,  “then I wouldn’t have to fuss so much.” I’d tell my husband, “If you wouldn’t ‘push my button’ then I wouldn’t have to go there.” I was great at blaming someone else for my responses to  life’s situations until one day, the Holy Spirit revealed to me that no one made me go off. I freely decided that ALL by myself! Eyes opened, I acknowledged that could no longer blame someone else for my choices. I had to accept responsibility for the words I chose to say and for the actions I chose to take.

I once heard a minister tell a congregation that the next time someone walks up and says to us, “I’m gonna give her a piece of my mind,” we should respond with, “No! Don’t give a piece away! You need all you can hold on to!” Seriously, I know I can’t say every thought that comes to my mind and still speak responsibly. Words have power. I am to be a steward over them by allowing the Holy Spirit to have charge over my tongue. I must choose my words carefully.

I am responsible to keep my word. Let me give you an example. My word, my pledge to you, represents who I am.  My decision to keep or not to keep my promises or my commitments, and to honor or not honor my relationships is extremely important. Every time I don’t do what I say I am going to do, then I am being irresponsible and I am telling others not to trust me. It’s so easy to be driven by my emotions at the moment and to say ‘yes’. Unfortunately later, when I’m tired, so very tired, I want to renege on my commitment. But I can’t go back on my word. I must be faithful.

I know what it feels like when people don’t keep their word. Therefore, when I give my word and I can’t keep it, it really bothers me. My word is my bond. I try to do my best to do what I say that I’m going to do. This means that I have to pray daily and ask God to give me more wisdom and balance. I don’t want to over schedule myself and end up falling through on my commitments. Nor do I want to make promises ‘willy-nilly’, without thinking about whether or not they are possible to keep. And I certainly don’t want to burn myself out trying to be everything to everyone. That’s God’s job. He is the only great I AM.

I am responsible for being a good steward. When it comes to finances, I try very hard to be responsible.  I  know that my family is counting on me. I wouldn’t want them to worry or lose sleep because I’m reckless with my paycheck and making poor financial decisions. It is my desire to be a good steward or overseer over all that God has entrusted to me. I do not want to be irresponsible with what belongs to Him. Rather, I choose to be… that’s right, faithful.

For everything belongs to Him.

I am responsible for my role in my relationships. I have a responsibility to the relationships in which I am involved; whether it’s a relationship with a member of my family, a friend, co-worker, student, or church family member. I am responsible to my children to be the best mom I can be, to my husband to be the best wife I can be, and my folks to be the best family member I can be. I have made a commitment to keep confidences, even if it means that someone else will be upset because I don’t tell them what I know. (I’ve had a few people to get hopping mad with me because I couldn’t share information that was told to me in confidence.)

I have a responsibility to treat others like I hope they will treat me. And really, I want to treat others how Christ treats me. He loves me unconditionally. Faithfully.

I also have a responsibility to myself.

I only have one body, so I’d better take care of it. As a dear friend tells me all the time, “Nobody is going to take of you like you can take care of you.” In other words, I am responsible for eating right, exercising (which I do not do, but am determined to do), and getting enough rest. I am responsible for protecting myself by not filling my mind with junk, negative messages, fears, the wrong kind of music, etc.

I am responsible to God. I am responsible for keeping God’s joy and peace in my life so I will be strong enough to make the journey. And finally, I have a responsibility to listen to Him in all the ways that He speaks to me, and to obey Him so that my life is balanced; and I can achieve the plan He has for me each day. For me, it’s so easy to get out of balance! For instance, I’m writing to you right now, and it’s 1:30 AM and I know that this is my rest time not my blog time. (Out of balance again!)

Boy, just reading this blog, about how I want to be a responsible person in so many areas of my life, is making me feel anxious! LOL  I mean, I only get 24 hours in a day to stay on task and get everything done. I could use another week in my day. How about you?

Then the Holy Spirit reminds me that if I keep my mind on Jesus, he will keep me in perfect peace. He will do the work in me and through me. (I feel myself taking a deep sigh of relief.) He will help me to be responsible. Step by step. Moment by moment. All God requires is for me to love Him and trust Him. The rest will fall in place.

I don’t have to make excuses when I’m irresponsible. Rather, I simply have to go to God, ask for His help, and ask for forgiveness for not listening to the Holy Spirit who wants to lead me. I repent, and accept responsibility for my actions. Then He washes me with His Word and cleanses me. I take a step closer to Him. He takes a step closer to me. We walk a little farther down the road of this journey… together.

He will do the same thing for you.

Enjoy the journey!



Question for today – How many times have you made excuses for not being the responsible person God has empowered you to be?

Scriptures to consider:

Deuteronomy 7:9 – God’s faithfulness – Know, recognize, and understand therefore that the Lord your God, He is God, the faithful God, Who keeps covenant and steadfast love and mercy with those who love Him and keep His commandments, to a thousand generations,

1 Samuel 12:24 – Serving God with faithfulness – 24 Only fear the Lord and serve Him faithfully with all your heart; for consider how great are the things He has done for you.

Luke 11:34 – Be careful what you watch – 34 Your eye is the lamp of your body; when your eye ([a]your conscience) is sound and fulfilling its office, your whole body is full of light; but when it is not sound and is not fulfilling its office, your body is full of darkness.

Romans 6:12 12 Let not sin therefore rule as king in your mortal (short-lived, perishable) bodies, to make you yield to its cravings and be subject to its lusts and evil passions.

1 Corinthians 6:18 18 Shun immorality and all sexual looseness [flee from impurity in thought, word, or deed]. Any other sin which a man commits is one outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.

9:27 – Take care of your body – 27 But [like a boxer] I buffet my body [handle it roughly, discipline it by hardships] and subdue it, for fear that after proclaiming to others the Gospel and things pertaining to it, I myself should become unfit [not stand the test, be unapproved and rejected as a counterfeit].

Proverbs 13:11 – Money – 11 Wealth [not earned but] won in haste or unjustly or from the production of things for vain or detrimental use [such riches] will dwindle away, but he who gathers little by little will increase [his riches].

Genesis 3 – Blaming others

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This post has been republished from the archives in case you missed it. Come back soon! You don’t want to miss the ‘r’ in d.i.r.t.!

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